That was today's chore...you know, the one chore that I was going to put on his to-do list....? I wanted to make sure he'd succeed, so I didn't request anything strenuous at all....
So for today, his chore was "clean the counter."
I just got a phone call. It's 3am. "I keep falling asleep. Would you be mad at me if I didn't clean the counter until tomorrow?"
Can you believe it? Probably, most of you can, unfortunately.
Yes, I'm mad. I'm disgusted. And I recognize that getting mad at someone when they "can't stay awake" won't be productive. But I did say this:
"You are already, after three days, falling back into your same old patterns. Like when you take all the laundry out of the dryer, say "I'll fold it tomorrow", then a week later, it's still not folded, and cats have been sleeping on it, so I have to wash it all over again." "I live in a house where neither you nor DD ever does what you're supposed to do when you are supposed to do it." "And I am going to say this. You had all day to clean that counter. You are too tired now. But if it doesn't get cleaned tomorrow, I WILL be angry." (and in my brain "and you won't believe HOW angry) (but I didn't say that part out loud.)
I am tired of this. But I will tell him that when he is "alert". I recognize that he is trying to change his sleep cycle to a normal one....he should not even be awake at 3am....
How on earth can he even entertain the thought of having a job, when he can't do one simple thing, like clean the counter? When he has at least 18 hours to do it in????
So for today, his chore was "clean the counter."
I just got a phone call. It's 3am. "I keep falling asleep. Would you be mad at me if I didn't clean the counter until tomorrow?"
Can you believe it? Probably, most of you can, unfortunately.
Yes, I'm mad. I'm disgusted. And I recognize that getting mad at someone when they "can't stay awake" won't be productive. But I did say this:
"You are already, after three days, falling back into your same old patterns. Like when you take all the laundry out of the dryer, say "I'll fold it tomorrow", then a week later, it's still not folded, and cats have been sleeping on it, so I have to wash it all over again." "I live in a house where neither you nor DD ever does what you're supposed to do when you are supposed to do it." "And I am going to say this. You had all day to clean that counter. You are too tired now. But if it doesn't get cleaned tomorrow, I WILL be angry." (and in my brain "and you won't believe HOW angry) (but I didn't say that part out loud.)
I am tired of this. But I will tell him that when he is "alert". I recognize that he is trying to change his sleep cycle to a normal one....he should not even be awake at 3am....
How on earth can he even entertain the thought of having a job, when he can't do one simple thing, like clean the counter? When he has at least 18 hours to do it in????