I really want to file for Disability for Rob. For purely selfish reasons. He is costing me so much money - my copays for his out of network doctors and prescriptions costs me about $250 per month. His car insurance payments are out of control, he costs me about $260 per month for insurance. His constant need for friends to be around him costs me about $300 per month for groceries that I have to replace. I can't put a dollar amount on the little extras, like replacing his starter - but I would imagine that he costs me at least another $100 each month for the incidentals related to his car. In the past year I have had to pay court costs and tickets related to his car, as well as title and license plates fees. It doesn't seem like much until I add everything up trying to figure out why in the hell I am so far in the hole when I make a decent living. Well, I don't know about decent. Actually my salary has remained stagnant for the past 3 years because the company I work for bleeds money. I don't want to get into the company problems.
Why I don't want to file for disability for Rob. Depending on his mood, he will either
a. Think he's hooked up with a free ride
b. Think he's a defective, useless person before he even gets out of the starting gate.
I have to figure out a way to get this boy (man) to wrap his head around getting a job. He just doesn't seem to get it. I can't stop feeding him, I can't stop paying for his docs and scripts, I can't keep his friends out of my house, and I can't stop helping him make his car drivable or he has the perfect excuse to not get a job.
He insists that he
will get a job. Every time I bring it up, he says "I will", "I'm gonna", "I was gonna but then..." My standard response is "when"? I've been listening to this for years now. Granted he has landed a few jobs, but they don't last long. He always has a reason to quit or manages to freak people out enough that they fire him.
What can I do to make him understand? I am charging him rent. He has already made his February payment from Christmas & birthday money. I only give him gas money if he is going to use it to look for a job. But he is earning gas money by charging his friends to give them rides. And when he doesn't make his March rent payment, I know there's no way I'm going to kick him out. So I will give him enough chores to do to make up for it.
I don't need chores done, I need money. So - disability or no disability? It's a tough one. I will have to just keep stewing on this for awhile.
But if any of y'all out there have any ideas that don't involve kicking my 18 year old with the mind of a 13 year old out into the snowy night... feel free to comment.
I really want to file for Disability for Rob. For purely selfish reasons. He is costing me so much money - my copays for his out of network doctors and prescriptions costs me about $250 per month. His car insurance payments are out of control, he costs me about $260 per month for insurance. His constant need for friends to be around him costs me about $300 per month for groceries that I have to replace. I can't put a dollar amount on the little extras, like replacing his starter - but I would imagine that he costs me at least another $100 each month for the incidentals related to his car. In the past year I have had to pay court costs and tickets related to his car, as well as title and license plates fees. It doesn't seem like much until I add everything up trying to figure out why in the hell I am so far in the hole when I make a decent living. Well, I don't know about decent. Actually my salary has remained stagnant for the past 3 years because the company I work for bleeds money. I don't want to get into the company problems.
Why I don't want to file for disability for Rob. Depending on his mood, he will either
I have to figure out a way to get this boy (man) to wrap his head around getting a job. He just doesn't seem to get it. I can't stop feeding him, I can't stop paying for his docs and scripts, I can't keep his friends out of my house, and I can't stop helping him make his car drivable or he has the perfect excuse to not get a job.
He insists that he will get a job. Every time I bring it up, he says "I will", "I'm gonna", "I was gonna but then..." My standard response is "when"? I've been listening to this for years now. Granted he has landed a few jobs, but they don't last long. He always has a reason to quit or manages to freak people out enough that they fire him.
What can I do to make him understand? I am charging him rent. He has already made his February payment from Christmas & birthday money. I only give him gas money if he is going to use it to look for a job. But he is earning gas money by charging his friends to give them rides. And when he doesn't make his March rent payment, I know there's no way I'm going to kick him out. So I will give him enough chores to do to make up for it.
I don't need chores done, I need money. So - disability or no disability? It's a tough one. I will have to just keep stewing on this for awhile.
But if any of y'all out there have any ideas that don't involve kicking my 18 year old with the mind of a 13 year old out into the snowy night... feel free to comment.