I'm a fan of the
Dr. Keith Ablow Show, and usually end up watching it a few times a week. A concept he likes to use is "projection." On his show, of course, are the most extreme examples of relationship dysfunction his producers can find, but, through exaggeration, sometimes it's easier to see the truth of the matter.
The concept of projection is basically, we see what we want to see, and disregard the rest (thanks Simon & Garfunkel). Anais Nin famously said, "We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are."
Projection becomes a habit when we have attachments to outcomes...and that's all about ego. We all have access to Truth, but we don't always use it. It's easier to believe something else that fits a tidy little ego box.
Another take on this is the glass half full or half empty analogy. For example, Jack and Jill both lost their jobs at the same company. Jack was devastated and saw visions of himself living on the street, begging for food. Jack sees his glass half empty. Jill was excited about now being able to be self-employed, and really finding her ideal situation. Jill sees her glass half full.
Another way projection can rear its pompous head is via "instant judgments." A grossly overweight woman is waiting in line in front of us at the grocery checkout stand holding a king-sized box of Oreo cookies. Our projection? "No wonder she's so fat." But, the truth of the matter is, the woman has already lost 50 pounds with Jenny Craig, and the buying of the cookies are her assigned task for the company party. She will not eat them. So, instead of
not judging, it's habitually easy to project our ego beliefs which usually end up making us feel right, and others wrong.
I've come to conclusion that I'd rather know the ugly Truth of a matter, rather than painting over it with what I WISH were true. How many times have we really just stood in front of a mirror and embraced, really accepted, what was staring back at us. How much are we denying? What are we hiding? How many things do we want to change? After the initial CRINGE, you can realize, Hey, I
can be happy with myself, d those things I
can change, I just will!
Speaking of that, next week, I'll tell you about my 48-hour cure for athlete's foot. It's simple, straightforward, and never fails.
Until next week...
In vibrant health,
Jan (Shay) Arave President
Subtle Energy Solutions
Labels: psychology, society
I'm a fan of the Dr. Keith Ablow Show, and usually end up watching it a few times a week. A concept he likes to use is "projection." On his show, of course, are the most extreme examples of relationship dysfunction his producers can find, but, through exaggeration, sometimes it's easier to see the truth of the matter.
The concept of projection is basically, we see what we want to see, and disregard the rest (thanks Simon & Garfunkel). Anais Nin famously said, "We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are."
Projection becomes a habit when we have attachments to outcomes...and that's all about ego. We all have access to Truth, but we don't always use it. It's easier to believe something else that fits a tidy little ego box.
Another take on this is the glass half full or half empty analogy. For example, Jack and Jill both lost their jobs at the same company. Jack was devastated and saw visions of himself living on the street, begging for food. Jack sees his glass half empty. Jill was excited about now being able to be self-employed, and really finding her ideal situation. Jill sees her glass half full.
Another way projection can rear its pompous head is via "instant judgments." A grossly overweight woman is waiting in line in front of us at the grocery checkout stand holding a king-sized box of Oreo cookies. Our projection? "No wonder she's so fat." But, the truth of the matter is, the woman has already lost 50 pounds with Jenny Craig, and the buying of the cookies are her assigned task for the company party. She will not eat them. So, instead of not judging, it's habitually easy to project our ego beliefs which usually end up making us feel right, and others wrong.
I've come to conclusion that I'd rather know the ugly Truth of a matter, rather than painting over it with what I WISH were true. How many times have we really just stood in front of a mirror and embraced, really accepted, what was staring back at us. How much are we denying? What are we hiding? How many things do we want to change? After the initial CRINGE, you can realize, Hey, I can be happy with myself, d those things I can change, I just will!
Speaking of that, next week, I'll tell you about my 48-hour cure for athlete's foot. It's simple, straightforward, and never fails.
Until next week...
In vibrant health,
Jan (Shay) Arave
President
Subtle Energy Solutions
Labels: psychology, society