Behavior has the power to either bring people closer to you - or push them away. Consider for a moment the people in your life; your family, friends and intimate partnerships. What is the quality of relationship you have with these people?
Are there people in your life who are behaving in a way towards you that causes distress, sadness, confusion or anger? Is there not a shred of evidence to support the possibility that they take responsibility for this and/or willing to make changes for the sake of the relationship? Ask yourself whether this works for you.
On the flip side - do you have a trail of destroyed relationships behind you? Do you put up walls or other blocks to intimacy and human connection? Are you giving out what you want back? Ask yourself if the end result of this has brought you joy - or emptiness?
A lot of people don't really understand the power of behavior - and more importantly, that they have a choice not to accept another's damaging behavior - or a choice to put an end to theirs.
A good therapist can help you to sort through your life and take stock of any damage occurring to you - or those around you - as the result of "behavior."
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
www.marintherapyandcounseling.com
Are there people in your life who are behaving in a way towards you that causes distress, sadness, confusion or anger? Is there not a shred of evidence to support the possibility that they take responsibility for this and/or willing to make changes for the sake of the relationship? Ask yourself whether this works for you.
On the flip side - do you have a trail of destroyed relationships behind you? Do you put up walls or other blocks to intimacy and human connection? Are you giving out what you want back? Ask yourself if the end result of this has brought you joy - or emptiness?
A lot of people don't really understand the power of behavior - and more importantly, that they have a choice not to accept another's damaging behavior - or a choice to put an end to theirs.
A good therapist can help you to sort through your life and take stock of any damage occurring to you - or those around you - as the result of "behavior."
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
www.marintherapyandcounseling.com