When things change, where do you fit in?

A fellow post op dealing with some serious eating disorder issues not even a year and a half after her RNY surgery, wants to know, where does she fit in now?

"Am I a weight loss surgery patient? Or an eating disorder patient?"

She writes: 

"Then I look at the weight loss surgery community. I have so many mixed emotions on that one. Especially in regards to the online WLS community. They offered me much support for a long time- but the rational side of me looking back knows that much of that also fed my eating disorder in a very large way."  

Should you completely disregard that type of peer support and move on - or - try to filter the way you read things and take what you need, avoiding the rest?

What about this?

"For months and months, I ate my meals on a saucer.  My body was literally in starvation mode.  As Beth has said, gastric bypass is very much like a surgery-induced state of anorexia. Those first several months you can't eat a large ammount of calories, you just can't. You do have to eat a large ammount of protein, and you do have to watch your intake of sugar, fat, and carbs or you can get quite physically ill. I get this, I know this, I lived it. But for how long? My EDI team keeps insisting that now that I am 16+ months post-surgery, that I can, should, and have to get to a state of more 'normalized' eating.

Inpatient in the hospital, this meant many things. Sandwiches, like, with 2 pieces of bread and stuff in the middle. Snacks of candy bars. Yes, a real Kit Kat bar was what I found sitting on my tray one day at snack time. My registered dietician, who knows of both my bulimia and my gastric bypass, selected a Kit Kat bar as a snack for me. And when you are inpatient, the option is eat that, or drink the damn Ensure which also has sugar in it, by the way. No protein drinks. Drinking liquids with meals. Consuming more carbohydrate grams in one meal than I used to in a day. Potatoes, rice, pasta, sugar, all foods which many in the WLS community would be simply horrified to eat. They'll tell me I'll gain all my weight back. I need to drink more protein supplements! But ya know what? I was inpatient for 22 days, and daily ate what they had me eat which included sugar, several hundered grams of carbohydrates, and 'white foods', among other things. Outings to restaurants which included me being 'forced' to have a treat at Dairy Queen. And I actually lost weight in there. I had energy, I slept well at night, my hunger was controlled. I think my body was very happy with how it was getting treated. I also, in a way feel like a traitor. A traitor to the 'hard core' WLS community. I can now eat sugar and not get dumping syndrome. I can eat a very, very 'normal' meal."

This post brings up a lot of topics, what are your thoughts?

Hot Jen has an interesting take on this.